You may have heard this quote by William Golding before:
“Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.”
Accepting a certain amount of generalising for the sake of argument, I agree with Golding’s appraisal here. Women have a particular and precious gift that I believe was lovingly bestowed upon us. We were created to create by our creative creator. We seem hard wired to take raw materials and form them into useful or beautiful objects. For many of us, there is nothing that gives quite the same type of satisfaction as making something useless into something useable.
Please note, I realise that men also have a creative drive and that they are excellent makers of all kinds of things. I don’t disparage the fact, but I know my readers will understand that my focus here is on lifting and supporting women who feel trapped by their circumstances, as I once did. It is these women who particularly need to hear what I have to say today.
For many women, making things is an act of love. You may express your love for your children by carefully crafting their diets to be both healthy and attractive to eat. You might crochet your loved ones blankets and put thought and care into each stitch. Generally endless amounts of love go into the nurture, protection and crafting of a new child. It is a wonderful gift to be able to take your love and allow it to energise and drive you to create something in the physical world.
In fact, this is how I want you to see it; your creative drive is basically a quiet superpower. Your need to make things can allow you to take your dreams from the fantasy world to reality.
Your creativity is one of the most powerful tools in your toolbox when it comes to creating the life that you want.
I have heard many women say that they’re just not creative, but I don’t believe it for a second. The problem is that we have a strange concept of what it means to be creative. Start thinking about creativity merely in terms of taking raw ingredients and making them into something; of taking problems and creating solutions, rather than ‘being a crafty person’. True creativity shows itself in all sorts of ways. It’s not just a matter of whether you can knit, paint or so on, so take it out of that mental box of yours.
Unlocking your creative drive is crucial to crafting the life you want. If you find yourself limited by your circumstances, perhaps thinking thoughts like “I’m just a stay at home mom, stuck in the house all day. I can’t do anything to change my life”, you are absolutely going to have to wake up your creativity in order to transform what you see as your entrapments into the tools of your freedom.
How do you begin to unlock your creativity?
The first step is actually just learning to recognise it when you see it. Open your eyes to ways that you are already creating things. There are endless ways that you most likely already show your creativity that do not involve yarn or a crochet hook.
- Maybe you’re that person who finds a tomato, half an onion and a rind of cheese in the fridge the day before grocery day and can make it into a nourishing and tasty meal.
- Perhaps you see a problem in your kids’ morning routine that is making them late to school, so you eliminate the problem areas and create a better routine.
- Maybe you have limited funds to last you until payday so you have to figure out how you’re going to make the money stretch.
- You might hate your dining room chairs so you come up with a way to revive them that doesn’t cost you anything.
Your next job is to expand your creativity and really fire up that spark. Look for opportunities in your daily life to solve problems without using money (since money is, in a sense, an exchange of your time for someone else’s creativity). Look for ways to use things you already have to create what you need. Switch use of money to the ‘last resort’ position in your life and rely more and more on your own inner resources.
Like anything, using your creative power takes practice. Similarly to exercising, it can be tiring at first if you’re not accustomed to it. Approach it as you would exercise; with patience, awareness and care. Over time you will grow bigger, stronger creative muscles and it will become second nature to use your own creative superpower before resorting to using money to solve a problem.
How can you apply this blog post to your life right now, today?
- Take a look at your to-do list and consider ways that you can inject a little creative practice.
- Think about something your family needs, and put a little time into making it from things you already have.
- Refuse yourself the ease of spending money today to solve a pressing problem.
Exercise your creativity today to solve a problem or make something, and observe your feelings afterwards. It may not seem like much to you right now, but this simple beginning will be the toe in the door that leads you to unlocking your creative potential.
I’ll be following up on this post as I start to unfold how you can use the vital tool of creativity to turn your life around. Please subscribe below if you’d like to be updated when I post new material.